Author: Samantha M. White
Publisher: Virtualbookworm.com Publishing
ISBN: 9780983214205
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 216
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A candid and insightful memoir in which the author, a psychotherapist, self-discloses the tragedies of her personal life and how she overcame them. When her life fell apart, not once, but three times in quick succession, the author was devastated. Here she tells how she created a "recipe" for not only healing, but transforming the pain of tragedy and loss into new growth and spiritual deepening. Using what she learned from the painful end of a happy marriage, betrayal by the next man she loved, and the violent death of her daughter, she put her life back together, piece by piece, even while plagued by illness, inspired and supported by the five "ingredients" of the recipe. The journey brought her to a place of joy she had never imagined possible. Her "recipe", for the reader who wishes to embark on a similar journey to peace, purpose, and joy, is included at the end of the book. This uplifting story will be of interest to general readers, especially those who enjoy creative non-fiction, including memoir; anyone who is grieving; and to psychotherapists treating issues of loss, bereavement, trauma, and depression.
Author: Christy Monson
Publisher: Abrams
ISBN: 164170134X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 238
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Finding peace in times of worldwide trauma is difficult, and finding peace in times of personal trauma such as a family death or tragedy can be overwhelming. Therapist Christy Monson professionally and compassionately describes how tragedy physically changes the brain and the body, and she provides powerful techniques to help heal those invisible wounds and cope with the turmoil of our day. Chapters are interspersed with moving, first-hand accounts that span the range of human tragedy, including those from A 9/11 survivor Parents who had two children die of brain tumors A mother whose son lost a leg in a road side bomb in Afghanistan A young adult whose father committed suicide And a rape survivor. Through detailed research, years of experience, and detailed interviews with survivors, Monson shows that there is hope for not just peace but also joy after tragedy.
Author: Alan Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 1617222887
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 53
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Grief overload is what you feel when you experience too many significant losses all at once, in a relatively short period of time, or cumulatively. In addition to the deaths of loved ones, such losses can also include divorce, estrangement, illness, relocation, job changes, and more. Our minds and hearts have enough trouble coping with a single loss, so when the losses pile up, the grief often seems especially chaotic and defeating. The good news is that through intentional, active mourning, you can and will find your way back to hope and healing. This compassionate guide will show you how.
Author: Scott Bacon
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781540561756
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 100
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About The Authors and Their Motivation At first impression, the thought that we can actually heal from the pain of trauma or deep loss may seem like a fallacy. For those grieving a loved one's death or maiming, it may even seem disrespectful to their memory. After any type of tragedy, it may feel as though being truly happy again is impossible, or something we 'should' feel guilty for desiring. Yet, deep down inside, our hearts yearn for peace and joy. We do not take for granted the impact of trauma or loss, and the resulting grief. We also do not take lightly the process of recovering from experiencing tragedy. This program was birthed out of inspiration received after our own personal struggles to deal with traumatic experiences, deep personal losses and the resulting grief... with little support. We are not Psychology or Medical professionals, nor are we Counselors. We simply have walked the path from grief to "healed" when there was no formal program to help and no one to show us a prescription for healing. Through witnessing the rapid increase of horrors being perpetrated on First Responders, such as Law Enforcement professionals, we were urgently compelled to support Police, Firefighters and other First Responders who endure trauma, loss and the resulting grief. Scott feels a kinship with these great people. As an Army Veteran he has experienced many of the traumas of military life (such as repeatedly being torn away from family by deployments, even as his infant son was dying; and personally witnessing many deaths). He found himself forced to cope alone; with no one safe to talk to about ugly realities that violently assault the psyche, clash with any sense of reason, and mockingly steal serenity. He spent years trying to reconcile within his own mind the many haunting memories, until he found relief through talking it out with trustworthy brothers and sisters, and working through it with God's help. In addition to Scott's Army experiences, we have both endured many life changing traumas and losses, individually and as a couple. Some of what we've undergone has included the death of an infant - and only - child; growing up in alcoholic homes, witnessing and being victims of ongoing domestic violence; loss of entire family and a plunge into homelessness; giving up an only child for adoption; divorce; and more. Miraculously, when we were all but ready to give up, we pressed on. Some told us our situations were hopeless, even suggesting that we resign ourselves to that "fact"; a suggestion that, if accepted, would extinguish all hope and essentially steal life itself from anyone. But The Truth is greater than facts! And, by grace, we have come to a place we called "healed". It is a place of acceptance, peace, purpose and - yes - joy! It is through our journeys (individually and as a couple), and from this place of healed, that we received the inspiration for this program. We came to learn and understand from experience that there IS a prescription for how to heal from the pain of deep loss. It is a prescription established in ancient times. And we have found it to still be effective today. Yet, it has been lost to modern, western society. So countless, disheartened souls tragically suffer in silence and search aimlessly for answers, with little or no support, as we ourselves did for many years. This should not be so! There is hope! We believe there is a prescribed path to HEALED. Although each person's journey to healing is unique, and there is no "right" way to grieve, the path described in this program arm participants with empowering tools for overcoming the pain of trauma. We have experienced it ourselves and have walked alongside hundreds of others as they've too have come to know peace. It is a healing process prescribed by our very Creator. And it is available to anyone who is willing to apply His Word.
Author: Pauline BOSS
Publisher: Harvard University Press
ISBN: 0674028589
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 166
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When a loved one dies we mourn our loss. We take comfort in the rituals that mark the passing, and we turn to those around us for support. But what happens when there is no closure, when a family member or a friend who may be still alive is lost to us nonetheless? How, for example, does the mother whose soldier son is missing in action, or the family of an Alzheimer's patient who is suffering from severe dementia, deal with the uncertainty surrounding this kind of loss? In this sensitive and lucid account, Pauline Boss explains that, all too often, those confronted with such ambiguous loss fluctuate between hope and hopelessness. Suffered too long, these emotions can deaden feeling and make it impossible for people to move on with their lives. Yet the central message of this book is that they can move on. Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and help families come to terms with their grief. Her work features the heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous loss and manage to leave their sadness behind, including those who have lost family members to divorce, immigration, adoption, chronic mental illness, and brain injury. With its message of hope, this eloquent book offers guidance and understanding to those struggling to regain their lives. Table of Contents: 1. Frozen Grief 2. Leaving without Goodbye 3. Goodbye without Leaving 4. Mixed Emotions 5. Ups and Downs 6. The Family Gamble 7. The Turning Point 8. Making Sense out of Ambiguity 9. The Benefit of a Doubt Notes Acknowledgments Reviews of this book: You will find yourself thinking about the issues discussed in this book long after you put it down and perhaps wishing you had extra copies for friends and family members who might benefit from knowing that their sorrows are not unique...This book's value lies in its giving a name to a force many of us will confront--sadly, more than once--and providing personal stories based on 20 years of interviews and research. --Pamela Gerhardt, Washington Post Reviews of this book: A compassionate exploration of the effects of ambiguous loss and how those experiencing it handle this most devastating of losses ... Boss's approach is to encourage families to talk together, to reach a consensus about how to mourn that which has been lost and how to celebrate that which remains. Her simple stories of families doing just that contain lessons for all. Insightful, practical, and refreshingly free of psychobabble. --Kirkus Review Reviews of this book: Engagingly written and richly rewarding, this title presents what Boss has learned from many years of treating individuals and families suffering from uncertain or incomplete loss...The obvious depth of the author's understanding of sufferers of ambiguous loss and the facility with which she communicates that understanding make this a book to be recommended. --R. R. Cornellius, Choice Reviews of this book: Written for a wide readership, the concepts of ambiguous loss take immediate form through the many provocative examples and stories Boss includes, All readers will find stories with which they will relate...Sensitive, grounded and practical, this book should, in my estimation, be required reading for family practitioners. --Ted Bowman, Family Forum Reviews of this book: Dr. Boss describes [the] all-too-common phenomenon [of unresolved grief] as resulting from either of two circumstances: when the lost person is still physically present but emotionally absent or when the lost person is physically absent but still emotionally present. In addition to senility, physical presence but psychological absence may result, for example, when a person is suffering from a serious mental disorder like schizophrenia or depression or debilitating neurological damage from an accident or severe stroke, when a person abuses drugs or alcohol, when a child is autistic or when a spouse is a workaholic who is not really 'there' even when he or she is at home...Cases of physical absence with continuing psychological presence typically occur when a soldier is missing in action, when a child disappears and is not found, when a former lover or spouse is still very much missed, when a child 'loses' a parent to divorce or when people are separated from their loved ones by immigration...Professionals familiar with Dr. Boss's work emphasised that people suffering from ambiguous loss were not mentally ill, but were just stuck and needed help getting past the barrier or unresolved grief so that they could get on with their lives. --Asian Age Combining her talents as a compassionate family therapist and a creative researcher, Pauline Boss eloquently shows the many and complex ways that people can cope with the inevitable losses in contemporary family life. A wise book, and certain to become a classic. --Constance R. Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce A powerful and healing book. Families experiencing ambiguous loss will find strategies for seeing what aspects of their loved ones remain, and for understanding and grieving what they have lost. Pauline Boss offers us both insight and clarity. --Kathy Weingarten, Ph.D, The Family Institute of Cambridge, Harvard Medical School
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 1617220914
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 128
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Dealing with grief in a practical manner, this guide offers compassionate tips for those affected by a traumatic death. Included are topics such as coping with family stress, expressing feelings of hurt and anger, dealing with hurtful comments, and exploring feelings of guilt. Each of the 100 suggestions is aimed at reducing the confusion, anxiety, and huge personal void in order to help survivors begin their lives again. Some of the tips include understanding the special characteristics of trauma grief, planting a tree in memory of the person who died, and making connections with others affected by a similar death.
Author: Elaine Kennelly
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 1631953524
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 144
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A Christian guide to grieving and healing after the suicide of a loved one, written from a personal perspective. In Finding Peace After a Suicide Loss, Elaine Kennelly shares the story of her eighteen-year-old son’s tragic death, opening up about the shattering blow and immediate anguish. Written in a format of then and now, the book courageously tackles the spiritual battles which face every suicide survivor: guilt, shame, rejection, blame, and stigma. The book is also not afraid to ask the question, “Why God? Why?” It took years for Elaine to start moving forward. Even then, her journey was made in baby-steps of love, prayer, forgiveness, obedience, and service. But there is victory to celebrate, as Finding Peace After a Suicide Loss shows the way to joy, real joy in a marriage that stays intact and a family that’s close at hand. Overcoming a suicide loss is possible — let Finding Peace After a Suicide Loss show you how.
Author: Dennis Klass
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
ISBN: 1317763602
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 388
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First published in 1996. This new book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. The dominant 20th century model holds that the function of grief and mourning is to cut bonds with the deceased, thereby freeing the survivor to reinvest in new relationships in the present. Pathological grief has been defined in terms of holding on to the deceased. Close examination reveals that this model is based more on the cultural values of modernity than on any substantial data of what people actually do. Presenting data from several populations, 22 authors - among the most respected in their fields - demonstrate that the health resolution of grief enables one to maintain a continuing bond with the deceased. Despite cultural disapproval and lack of validation by professionals, survivors find places for the dead in their on-going lives and even in their communities. Such bonds are not denial: the deceased can provide resources for enriched functioning in the present. Chapters examine widows and widowers, bereaved children, parents and siblings, and a population previously excluded from bereavement research: adoptees and their birth parents. Bereavement in Japanese culture is also discussed, as are meanings and implications of this new model of grief. Opening new areas of research and scholarly dialogue, this work provides the basis for significant developments in clinical practice in the field.
Author: John E. Welshons
Publisher: New World Library
ISBN: 9781930722187
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 236
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A counselor shows readers how to transform grief into a growth experience, offering this unique and sensitively written primer for surviving tragic loss that focuses on grief as an invitation to life-deepening experiences.
Author: Paul Coleman
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1440573395
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 224
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A sensitive approach to overcoming loss! Behind every tragedy and loss lies a tranquil reality just waiting to be found. Finding Peace When Your Heart Is in Pieces shows you how to use the Four Paths of Transformation--acceptance, inspiration, release, and compassion--to move past your suffering and discover inner peace. Author Paul Coleman, PsyD, guides you through every chapter with powerful exercises that help you evaluate your current emotional state and how the hardship has impacted your life. With his guidance and insight, you will learn how to transform your pain into positive thinking, find perspective through charitable acts, and hone in on what you need to do to step into a brighter future. Whether mourning the loss of a romance, health, a loved one, or coping with any of life's upheavals, Finding Peace When Your Heart Is in Pieces will help you overcome your pain and finally find peace within yourself.
